This Is Embarrassingly Personal, But Sharing Is Teaching
The garden party I mentioned in a message earlier this year is happening this Saturday!
I’m so excited to bring it to life and can’t wait to share how it goes with you in next week’s message.
Something I’ve said for years (to myself and here) is “I’m here to spread the good, the holy and the beautiful”. I picked this line up from The Way of Mastery years ago and I really feel like the garden party is an extension of this intention.
The party is not only an extension of something that wants to flow from my heart, but it’s also filled with beauty in how I want to aesthetically present it. The little details are getting me so excited!
I also love this quote from Melanie Ann Layer: “Celebration is a party thrown in the name of gratitude.”
With tasting and partaking in fancy champagne being a central theme of the party, I thought this quote tied in perfectly to create an underlying intention for the party, as well!
To build on the frequency of gratitude as we near the party, I’m personally taking time this week …
Letting Go of the Need To Be Liked
There’s a difference between wanting to be liked and needing to be liked.
You can want to be liked without altering who you are.
But when you need to be liked you’re at risk of altering who you are and how you behave in order to be liked.
When you want to be liked without altering who you are, you can let go of not being liked and continue as you are.
It’s so important to be aware of the difference.
I encourage you to observe yourself as you interact with others, whether it’s existing relationships or being around new people, in new situations and circumstances.
Do you feel yourself adjusting to meet the standards of another or are you comfortably holding yourself in who you know yourself to be, regardless of another’s reaction or opinion of you?
These can be micro movements in ourself or patterns that are unconsciously running us.
Become adept at uncovering the unconscious patterns and more vigilant at noticing the micro movements in yourself that subtly adjust to what will gain you the validation (applause, belonging, being thought of in a flattering way, someone not being mad or upset with you, etc.).
We have a strong need …
The People Pleaser’s Guide To Reclaiming Your Personal Power
Reminder that the price of The People Pleaser’s Guide To Reclaiming Your Personal Power is going up Friday, March 1st, at Midnight.
It’s currently$33 and will be going to $44.
You can purchase a copy HERE.
Before having the tools and understanding I share in this guide, I felt at a loss for what to do when I was around someone who didn’t freely give me the space to say No to a request without them taking it personally.
For the most part, all of the major relationships in my life freely gave me this space.
I didn’t even realize I had the space until I found myself in a new situation where saying No caused the other person to take it personally.
They got upset, which didn’t feel good.
In fact, it felt confrontational, which, for me, was scary and uncomfortable.
Keeping the peace felt like keeping them from getting upset by meeting their expectations, instead expressing how I truly felt.
This maintained an outer peace, but my inner world was anything but peaceful.
I was frustrated, seething inside.
I resented feeling trapped in this situation and …