Transforming People Pleasing
In case you missed it, last week I released my very first digital guide called The People Pleaser’s Guide To Reclaiming Your Personal Power!
You can grab a copy here.
I’m truly thrilled and grateful every time I see a purchase come through, because I know the guide just got into the hands of someone who physically and energetically said “I’m ready for a change.”
You may or may not relate to being a people pleaser, so I thought I’d break down who this guide is for…
It’s for the person who, across the board, finds it difficult to say NO to things that are asked of you.
You feel obligated to say Yes, but resent it.
You feel trapped in this obligation.
You feel guilty if you say NO so it never truly feels like an option.
All of which causes you to feel overlooked and taken advantage of.
It’s also for the person who only finds it difficult to say NO in certain situations or with certain people.
In most situations, you feel free to agree to what you want to agree to and to say …
KEEP READINGYour Primary Purpose Is Love
When I focus on my intention to be loving no matter what arises (an often, but not always, daily practice of getting centered and set for the day), it automatically brings to the surface incidents of being outside of this intention.
This is a good thing and not something to feel bad about.
Feeling bad about it only keeps you from looking (and the unconscious pattern continuing)…
..but an openness and willingness to look at the ways in which we fall outside of this intention are necessary to continually clear a path for love to move through us…
…where the ultimate soul goal is for love to flow without interval.
I don’t hold the bar to “be loving not matter what arises” and expect to be perfect.
Instead, I hold the intention with a readiness, openness and willingness to notice, own/take responsibility for and transform the places I’m out of alignment with this intention.
This process keeps me returning to and recommitting myself to my intention to be loving no matter what arises, while also continuously scanning for what needs to be looked at and addressed.
When I address what …
Worthiness, Mavericks & God
It’s important to know where you are in your journey of awakening so you understand the struggles, challenges, pitfalls and goals associated with the section the journey you’re experiencing.
You’ll know where you are based on what feels most resonant to you.
Part of my purpose is to continually bring forth a bridge of understanding not only what may be relevant to where you are, but to also show where it’s leading.
My intention in doing this is twofold:
One, it helps you pinpoint where you are in the journey so you understand the goal of this phase of the path, along with the challenges that come with it.
It orients you on your soul’s goal while giving you a broader understanding of the bigger picture.
And secondly, it helps you understand why something that’s relevant to you may not resonate with someone else (and vice versa), which builds understanding through compassionate wisdom.
It keeps your ego from judging or becoming frustrated with someone who doesn’t get what is currently resonating with you (or challenging you).
And it keeps your ego from feeling superior if someone is dealing with something you’ve …
Learning To Walk With Your Shadow
Almost everyone walks with a shadow side (fear, unconsciousness, ego, etc.).
Some understand their shadow. Many don’t.
Some work to heal their shadow. Many feel at the mercy of their shadow.
Some learn to walk with their shadow. Many live caught in their own shadow without ever realizing it.
It takes courage to face, understand and heal your shadow (your triggers).
It takes courage to bring self-awareness to your shadow.It takes courage to live your life in a healthy relationship with your shadow….
To know it’s there attempting to bind you to it by pleading with you to shrink (or falsely boast) in the name of safety…And to move in accordance with your heart’s desires anyway.
This is how you reclaim and expand your personal power.
To bring awareness to your shadow and to begin to see through it so it loses its power over you. To feel it trying to discourage you and to choose to move with this sense of fear and contraction anyway.To expand the capable part of yourself beyond the part that’s trying to shrink you.You don’t need to wait until your shadow no longer has a hold over …
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