Freeing Yourself From The Guilt & Stress of Honoring A Loved One’s Last Wishes
Being bound by a loved one’s last wishes or expectations of them, even when it puts their current life circumstances in great distress (aka “ruling from the grave”).
This can level so much stress on the person who’s trying to honor the wishes of the deceased.
I’ve seen this occur at great financial detriment and emotional stress because the person feels they cannot make the decision that best supports where they are in life.
They must honor the wishes of the deceased, no matter the cost to the quality of life they’re currently living.
I’ve seen it show up as deep emotional stress around fearing reproach from the loved when they meet again in the afterlife for disappointing them.
Financial stress. Emotional stress. Guilt. Fear. Splintered relationships with those who are being impacted by the financial and emotional stress of trying to uphold these expectations.
All in trying to honor a loved one’s wishes or expectations of them.
Good hearted people twisted into knots of stress because they fear they can’t fail their loved one even if it puts their current life circumstances in distress.
Or if they make a different decision, they can’t do so from a place of freedom. They’re still bound by the stress (guilt) of not being able to honor the deceased’s wishes.
In hopes of alleviating this stress, I want to over a different perspective to contemplate.
I understand anything having to do with the afterlife is potentially polarizing. So I offer this as something to contemplate…to see if it resonates, in hopes it helps free anyone experiencing this.
I see life as a school of learning for the soul’s ongoing actualization of love and light.
I see our respective lives as being set up to learn certain soul lessons we’ve agreed to on a soul level.
I see the people we’re here interacting with as components of this learning.
I also believe we do a “life review” when we leave our physical bodies. This review looks at the lessons we learned, learning opportunities missed and, based on this, we set up the next level of learning for our soul journey.
I believe we, as souls, are always learning and growing as a function of our soul’s evolutionary journey.
I don’t believe there’s an ultimate “missing the mark” because our soul will go into a new scenario to learn what needs to be learned until that lesson is actualized.
I also believe in the state where we do our “life review” we’re doing so from our soul perspective, not our three-dimensional human perspective.
We’re looking at our human journey from the wider, more loving and wise lens of our soul.
This is the critical piece I hope will help alter the stress that comes from trying to honor last wishes or expectation when it’s at the detriment of your quality of life.
Once our loved one has left their physical/human body, they’re looking at their life from their soul perspective, where this perspective reveals and corrects all of the misperceptions from their human journey.
They recognize when they were clinging to something from a limited, human perspective that no longer makes sense to the wise view of their soul.
Like land. Or money. Or whatever their last wishes (or expectations) were that’s binding their loved ones in deeply stressful ways.
I believe they can see your good hearted intent and they can see that binding you in a deeply stressful way is not the loving thing they want for you from their soul perspective.
I believe they want inner freedom for you. I believe this becomes apparent from their soul perspective, even though it wasn’t from their limited, human perspective.
For some, this may feel like the guardrails are coming off and this reasoning is offering too much freedom.
This thinking assumes you don’t know how to make heart centered choices without fear or guilt.
I believe you’re a good hearted person who is always trying to act from your heart.
I believe your good hearted intent is being bound by fear and guilt, but when you’re free of fear and guilt, your good hearted intent is still there, available to operate from a more pure place (since it’s not being bound by fear and guilt).
I don’t believe removing the guardrails of fear and guilt means you will act selfishly, greedily or whatever other negative quality you fear.
I still believe there are people who do act selfishly and greedily, but they likely weren’t bound by the guardrails anyway.
I also believe, they have their own “life review” for their own learning and it’ll all be balanced out at some point.
Being a good hearted person doesn’t require operating from fear and guilt.
In fact, the purer your heart is the less guilt and fear it’s bound by.
You can trust in your good hearted nature and intent and make decisions from here.
Disappointing the human version of your loved one who has passed doesn’t mean you’ve disappointed the soul version of your loved one.
I truly believe they want what’s best for you, both your human self and your soul.
Freeing yourself from their earthly demands is okay. They understand. They can see a much fuller perspective now.
Honor them through your inner freedom (they understand how valuable this is now) and the purification of your good hearted intent (cleansing yourself of fear and guilt).
The purer you heart is, the easier it is to do the most loving and wise thing, whatever that may be.
I sincerely hope this helps.
Always Shine Brightly,
Shanna
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