Being bound by a loved one’s last wishes or expectations of them, even when it puts their current life circumstances in great distress (aka “ruling from the grave”).

This can level so much stress on the person who’s trying to honor the wishes of the deceased.

I’ve seen this occur at great financial detriment and emotional stress because the person feels they cannot make the decision that best supports where they are in life. 

They must honor the wishes of the deceased, no matter the cost to the quality of life they’re currently living. 

I’ve seen it show up as deep emotional stress around fearing reproach from the loved when they meet again in the afterlife for disappointing them. 

Financial stress. Emotional stress. Guilt. Fear. Splintered relationships with those who are being impacted by the financial and emotional stress of trying to uphold these expectations. 

All in trying to honor a loved one’s wishes or expectations of them. 

Good hearted people twisted into knots of stress because they fear they can’t fail their loved one even if it puts their current life circumstances in distress.

Or if they make a …

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