The People Pleaser’s Guide To Reclaiming Your Personal Power
Reminder that the price of The People Pleaser’s Guide To Reclaiming Your Personal Power is going up Friday, March 1st, at Midnight.
It’s currently$33 and will be going to $44.
You can purchase a copy HERE.
Before having the tools and understanding I share in this guide, I felt at a loss for what to do when I was around someone who didn’t freely give me the space to say No to a request without them taking it personally.
For the most part, all of the major relationships in my life freely gave me this space.
I didn’t even realize I had the space until I found myself in a new situation where saying No caused the other person to take it personally.
They got upset, which didn’t feel good.
In fact, it felt confrontational, which, for me, was scary and uncomfortable.
Keeping the peace felt like keeping them from getting upset by meeting their expectations, instead expressing how I truly felt.
This maintained an outer peace, but my inner world was anything but peaceful.
I was frustrated, seething inside.
I resented feeling trapped in this situation and …
KEEP READINGCalibrating Your Sense of Belonging
You belong at the table.
What table?
Whatever proverbial table you desire to be at.
But you have to first give yourself permission to be at the table.
Then, take your seat.
Let your presence be present.
Don’t shrink it down wondering if you should be at the table.
Take your seat. And let your presence expand to its full capacity.
Relax in your own presence.
Allow yourself to show up in your most confident, expanded state.
This may take practice.
But get yourself to the table, in your seat, so you can practice taking up space.
Calibrate to knowing you belong at the table.
Reflect on how you react to being in this new space.
Notice the contraction, if there is one.
See if you can relax the contraction and anchor into belonging in the new, desired space. Get your energy to a zero point of calm belonging.
Then, feel into how you desire to show up and contribute.
See what comes up as a hesitation.
Look at it. Shift it in the moment if you can or reflect on it in hindsight.
But keep calibrating to belonging “at …
Self-Realization Teachings are Ripe for Spiritual Abuse. How To Protect Yourself…
I’ve spent the past month and a half learning more about cults, high demand groups, group control, etc. and the scariest thing (from my personal point of view) is the overall (mis)use of self-realization teachings.
From Bentinho Massaro’s community to NXIVM to Scientology to the troubled teen industry to Twin Flame University they all (mis)use self-realization teachings by taking a fundamentalist approach to their application (i.e., they do not utilize a compassionate bridge for people to incrementally grow in this process of self-realization).
They also intentionally misuse these teachings by failing to teach self-forgiveness and, instead, sneakily inserting a shame cycle in its place (I wrote about this in a previous blog/post).
They take the basic premise of self-realized teachings, regarding there being two of you: you as the not yet realized state and you as the realized state and weave their abusive intention through what should be (when the intention is pure) a sacred process of spiritual growth for any soul on the planet.
It sets up a scenario where “the group’s teachings” are used to uphold the idealized version of the “realized state” over the “unrealized state”.
Prior to actually knowing the realized state, students/group members are …
It’s Hard To Market Something Without A Hook
Something I’ve always struggled with (that I’m now thankful for) is trying to understand why I haven’t consistently “attracted” more people to the information I share. I know the information has served me in my journey but I’ve not been very good at communicating that value to others (unless it’s empowerment teachings. More on this in a bit).
When I started sharing information, beginning with my book, A Call to the Heart, it was centered on what I’ll refer to as “teachings of the direct path”, also known as self-realization.
I read A Course in Miracles. The teachings resonated. Divine inspiration flowed through me to write A Call to the Heart, where I shared how I applied the teachings to everyday scenarios as a way of knowing my wholeness.
The benefit was simply recognizing that applying these teachings meant I was relieved by a situation that my previous perception was somehow upset by.
I didn’t have a big before and after type result that I could lead with since my outer life didn’t change in any particular way.
I also didn’t start with a “major before issue” that I resolved …
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