How To Feel More Peace, Power & Fulfillment
Your emotional state is NEVER about what someone else did or didn’t do to (or for) you.
It’s not about what has or hasn’t occurred in your life.
Instead, it’s about what you believe to be true about those events and circumstances.
The beliefs you hold about yourself and life in general are projected onto the person, relationship, situation and circumstances to create how you feel about what has happened.
Which means you hold complete power over your emotional state…even when you give that power away.
Your act of giving it away by feeling at the mercy of whatever has occurred is still created by you.
Granted, this is done at an unconscious level and you shouldn’t judge yourself for doing so.
But, hopefully, in recognizing you’ve held the power the entire time, you consciously choose to apply it more wisely to your own experience.
We create our emotional experience based on where we’re coming from.
If we’re coming from a lack of self-love or self-esteem, or a sense of feeling unworthy and undeserving, we’ll project that lack state onto our experience.
And we’ll conclude the state we’re coming from…
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KEEP READINGBreaking Free From Struggle
Sometimes you have to slow down to speed up, especially when you’ve been in patterns of struggle.
Patterns of struggle are created through frustration and disbelief.
They’re created through drawing conclusions about what’s possible based on either a history of what you’ve been seeing…
…or what you see as possible through your current set of circumstances.
When patterns of frustration, resistance and disbelief build up overtime they start to gel in your experience.
Your mind and energy become so wrapped around seeing through a lens of struggle that you energetically block yourself from creating your desired experience.
There’s little to no room for something new to enter your experience because the heavy energy of struggle is repeating and recreating itself over and over again.
This can all be changed.
You’re never stuck in an energy of struggle.
But you have to consciously shift your energy to make room for a new experience.
You have to break your agreements with your old beliefs.
Your identification with struggle is an agreement whether you’ve consciously agreed to it or not.
At an unconscious level, you’ve agreed to see your experience through frustration, resistance …
Self-Love Is Your Super Power
Often when we experience emotional pain, our first reaction is to blame it on a cause outside of ourself. Someone did something that we believe is blame worthy. Had they not done it, we’d feel at peace.
But this isn’t how peace works.
It’s how lack works. And a lack of peace can be directly attributed to a lack of self-love, self-acceptance or compassion towards ourself.
The thing the person said (or didn’t say) or did (or didn’t do) hurts because we believe their response to us is what can fill us up.
We’re reading meaning into our own value based on what occurs outside of us.
That’s a very emotionally precarious place to come from since everything hinges on an external response…something we have no real control over (though we may try to exert control to get the response we desire).
To compound this situation, our fear regarding whether or not the outcome lands in our favor means we’re projecting lack onto what we’re seeing. Our projected sense of lack is going to see lack where it wouldn’t otherwise be seen.
We’re giving meaning to what does or doesn’t occur …
It’s Safe to Feel Unsafe
We each have patterns in us we over identify with or lean on to feel safe.
Unfortunately, these patterns often stem from not inwardly feeling safe or whole so we’re unknowingly relying on compulsive, dysfunctional and distorted patterns to create a false sense of safety.
These patterns are always based in some form of fear that expresses through things like control…
If you can control your outer circumstances through dominating others or a situation, you believe it’ll keep you safe.
Or by making yourself small as to not be a problem for another…
If you can control yourself as the one variable to keep the peace in a situation by walking on eggshells or being the peacemaker or people pleaser, you’ll continue to feel safe by not creating confrontation, disapproval or rejection.
These patterns show up in numerous ways, depending on our disposition, temperament and personality.
But they all point towards creating a sense of safety for ourself in our outer world when we’re not able to come from it directly.
This sense of safety is always based on a shaky foundation. We know this because safety is not felt when these patterns are …
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