Learning To Walk With Your Shadow
Almost everyone walks with a shadow side (fear, unconsciousness, ego, etc.).
Some understand their shadow. Many don’t.
Some work to heal their shadow. Many feel at the mercy of their shadow.
Some learn to walk with their shadow. Many live caught in their own shadow without ever realizing it.
It takes courage to face, understand and heal your shadow (your triggers).
It takes courage to bring self-awareness to your shadow.It takes courage to live your life in a healthy relationship with your shadow….
To know it’s there attempting to bind you to it by pleading with you to shrink (or falsely boast) in the name of safety…And to move in accordance with your heart’s desires anyway.
This is how you reclaim and expand your personal power.
To bring awareness to your shadow and to begin to see through it so it loses its power over you. To feel it trying to discourage you and to choose to move with this sense of fear and contraction anyway.To expand the capable part of yourself beyond the part that’s trying to shrink you.You don’t need to wait until your shadow no longer has a hold over …
KEEP READINGWhen Ego Tries To Absorb Itself In The Light
Last Friday I attended a Champagne luncheon (so fun!). Vibey restaurant. Food I couldn’t always pronounce and bubbly! What’s not to like?!
I unexpectedly found myself at one last Fall and when this one was announced, I jumped at the opportunity to return (isn’t it fun how new experiences easily expand what’s now normal to say Yes to?!).
At the one last Fall, we sat at individual tables where our group had one to ourselves (fun and easy to share in conversation with each other, but not as conducive to meeting new people).
This time, we all sat together at one long table. My friends were to my left and new people sat across from me and to my right.
When the owner of the champagne company was between sharing about each pour and the food it was paired with, there was time to chat with the others in attendance.
If you’re in a new social setting, do you wait for someone to engage you in conversation or do you initiate the conversation?
For me, this depends on how comfortable I feel.
When I feel a little out of place …
You’re Being Called To Be THE EXAMPLE
You either RISE in Personal Power (consciousness) or FALL to your energetic leaks (unconscious patterns).
It’s time to shore up unconscious patterns and Rise Up!
This takes spiritual and emotional maturity…something that’s available to all, but few choose.
Are you one of the rare ones?
If so, you’re being called to hold higher standards (of consciousness) for yourself.
You’re being called to be The Example to calibrate to in your own circle of influence.
It starts with You.
As you model creating and/or maintaining healthy relationships and boundaries, others have an example to calibrate to.
As you model stabilizing in peace and personal power vs unconsciously reacting to things that trigger your ego, others have an example to calibrate to.
As you model conscious communication, others have an example to calibrate to.
As you model intentionality, others have an example to calibrate to.
As you model creating core memories with loved ones, others have an example to calibrate to.
As you model taking responsibility for your inner state (how you feel/how you perceive life), others have an example to calibrate to.
As you model taking responsibility for your reactive nature …
Receiving Boundaries (or Reflections) from a Conscious Place
Aside from learning how to set boundaries, we also have to learn how to receive them when someone else establishes one with us.
I know, for me, my unconscious reaction is to contract and shrink, immediately feeling bad for making a mistake that’s being called out and corrected by the other person.
You may react out of feeling threatened and become defensive and aggressive.
You may get your feelings hurt.
You may get p*ssed off because it doesn’t make sense why someone would set the boundary with you.
You might become passive aggressive.
All of these are ego responses.
Everything in me wishes I wouldn’t have made the mistake, but that’s also how I learn and become aware of whatever I was unconsciously doing/how I was coming across to the other person.
It’s also how I learn to accept myself when someone has a negative opinion of me/something I did.
Instead of shrinking and judging ourselves or feeling threatened and becoming defensive and aggressive (or passive aggressive), a more conscious approach is to look at the pattern objectively and grow our awareness around whatever behavior is being called out as …
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