Aside from learning how to set boundaries, we also have to learn how to receive them when someone else establishes one with us.

I know, for me, my unconscious reaction is to contract and shrink, immediately feeling bad for making a mistake that’s being called out and corrected by the other person. 

You may react out of feeling threatened and become defensive and aggressive.

You may get your feelings hurt.

You may get p*ssed off because it doesn’t make sense why someone would set the boundary with you.

You might become passive aggressive.

All of these are ego responses.

Everything in me wishes I wouldn’t have made the mistake, but that’s also how I learn and become aware of whatever I was unconsciously doing/how I was coming across to the other person. 

It’s also how I learn to accept myself when someone has a negative opinion of me/something I did.

Instead of shrinking and judging ourselves or feeling threatened and becoming defensive and aggressive (or passive aggressive), a more conscious approach is to look at the pattern objectively and grow our awareness around whatever behavior is being called out as …

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