Often when we experience emotional pain, our first reaction is to blame it on a cause outside of ourself.  Someone did something that we believe is blame worthy. Had they not done it, we’d feel at peace.

But this isn’t how peace works.

It’s how lack works. And a lack of peace can be directly attributed to a lack of self-love, self-acceptance or compassion towards ourself.

The thing the person said (or didn’t say) or did (or didn’t do) hurts because we believe their response to us is what can fill us up.

We’re reading meaning into our own value based on what occurs outside of us.

That’s a very emotionally precarious place to come from since everything hinges on an external response…something we have no real control over (though we may try to exert control to get the response we desire).

To compound this situation, our fear regarding whether or not the outcome lands in our favor means we’re projecting lack onto what we’re seeing. Our projected sense of lack is going to see lack where it wouldn’t otherwise be seen.

We’re giving meaning to what does or doesn’t occur …

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