A couple months ago my sister-in-law met a friend of a friend who, as she learned about him and his interests, thought I might be interested in meeting.

One of the things she said we have in common is being comfortably single so it wasn’t necessarily about connecting in “that” way, though the additional shared interests made it a “hmmm, that’s interesting”.

At the time, we left it at me being open to showing up at a social situation where he might be present and seeing what naturally unfolds. 

Fast forward about a month and a half and my sister-in-law invited me to a birthday party where he might be present.

Was this going to be a Yes moment or a No to avoid the discomfort that immediately arose in me?

I told her I’d think about it, where I spent the next week thinking I was going to say No (to feel safe).

I easily convinced myself it was very odd to show up at someone’s birthday party (by myself) who I’d only met once. (My sister-in-law would be there, but we live 50 miles from each other so …

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