Knowing Peace Is Within Your Hands

March 28, 2023

Personal Responsibility

This is something key to understand and remember if you desire to create peace in any situation or dynamic that occurs in your life…

Your emotional state is NEVER about what someone else did or didn’t do to (or for) you.

It’s not about what has or hasn’t occurred in your life.

Instead, it’s about what you believe to be true about those events and circumstances.

The beliefs you hold about yourself and life in general are projected onto the person, relationship, situation and circumstances to create how you feel about what has happened.

Which means you hold complete power over your emotional state…even when you give that power away.

Your act of giving it away by feeling at the mercy of whatever has occurred is still created by you.

Granted, this is done at an unconscious level and you shouldn’t judge yourself for doing so.

But, hopefully, in recognizing you’ve held the power the entire time, you consciously choose to apply it more wisely to your own experience.

We create our emotional experience based on where we’re coming from.

If we’re coming from a lack of self-love or self-esteem, or a sense of feeling unworthy and undeserving, we’ll project that lack state onto our experience.

And we’ll draw a conclusion based on the state we’re coming from…

Whatever occurs will confirm our state of lack.

Relationship dynamics get stuck in loops replaying the same pattern of pain and frustration over and over because neither party changes where they’re coming from in their individual experience.

It’s the constant triggering of unhealed wounds (which are what keep us in lack states).

If you used the situation as a mirror for what needs to be healed in yourself, you’d be in a position to make the adjustments on your side to come from more self-love…

…which coincides with greater self-acceptance…

…and leads to a greater sense of worthiness.

All of which completely shifts your experience.

With greater self-love and self-acceptance, you decrease your demands on others (and life itself) to know and feel that within yourself.

With greater self-love and self-acceptance, you give more space and grace to others.

When you’re no longer using others to feel loved, safe and accepted they’re free to have their journey without it effectively your inner state.

When you experience anything outside of peace it’s a direct pointer to some degree of lack that’s at play in your own beliefs towards yourself.

Instead of blaming the person or experience, try questioning the underlying lack beliefs that have likely been activated in you.

Ask yourself:

What am I believing about myself for this experience to feel so true?

If I wasn’t believing (insert what you’re believing), would I still feel what I’m feeling?

Is what I’m believing absolutely true?

Is there another more peaceful way to see this?

And if you’re open to seeing in a new way but aren’t sure how, here’s a prayer for guidance and transformation:

“God I’m ready and willing to see this differently. I’m ready to move through this. Please show me the way.” – Amen

Your goal is to root out the lack stories that are constantly playing on the surface of your mind so you’re able to drop deeper into self-love and acceptance.

These lack beliefs consume your awareness and constantly direct it away from your deeper nature.

Each lack belief you question, see through and ultimately drop, makes space for your deeper, more loving and wise nature to be known.

The more stories you question, the more space you create for these deeper qualities in yourself to be known.

The more you do this, the more peace and fulfillment you feel and experience.

If you’d like help identifying, questioning and moving through your lack beliefs (so you feel more peace, power and fulfillment in your life), I offer one-on-one coaching packages to help with this.