Grow Your Personal Power Responsibly (Consciously)
Your relationship with yourself is what creates your general power dynamic with each relationship that you have.
If you have a strong relationship with yourself, you tend to have an equal power dynamic in your relationships with others (especially the ones you attract once you’re in your power, meaning relationships prior to this and family dynamics may not represent this).
If you have a bit of a disjointed or messy relationship with yourself, you’ll see that dynamic play out in other relationships in your life.
You’ll see an unequal power dynamic either as you being the dominant one or you being the one who’s dominated.
Being able to hold your power, whether others have more or less power than you, is what enables you to enter into healthy relationship dynamics.
You don’t have to have equally developed personal power for this to occur.
But you do have to have a baseline capacity of holding your own power (which relates to your baseline relationship with yourself regarding knowing your own value and worth).
From here you can continue to deepen and refine it.
But this baseline needs to be met first.
If not, you’re going to shrink when a person with more developed personal power enters the room.
Or go into a self-protective mode by preparing yourself to “attack” any perceived threats to your power.
This is all unbalanced reactions to not truly knowing your own personal power.
You’re operating from defense mechanisms meant to keep you safe versus actually developing, deepening and refining your personal power.
The existence or lack of defense mechanisms goes back to your core relationship with yourself…the standards around how you see yourself and perceive your own value.
All of which can be shifted, deepened and refined.
It’s not about growing your power to overpower everyone else.
It’s about knowing and holding your power so you’re free to be who you are without altering your expression to protect yourself.
It’s about doing this while simultaneously respecting others (giving them the space to be who they are without them impacting your ability to be who you are).
And in giving them the space to be who they are, you may choose to remove yourself from being in and/or developing a relationship with them.
That’s power.
You can also grow your personal power faster than those you’re currently in relationship with and it NOT negatively impact how you relate to each other…if your responsible with your power.
If you sense you have more personal power than another, it’s your responsibility not to manipulate or overpower them.
You have to sense where they are in their desire to grow their own power.
Otherwise you’re wielding expectations on them they didn’t ask for. And may not be ready for.
If you’re making your peace dependent on their need to grow their own power, you’re not in your power.
You grow your power when you accept where others are in their development of personal power without it impacting your emotional state (peace).
You may decide you have more fun interacting with and developing relationships with people who have more personal power than the people you previously interacted with.
That’s okay.
But your acceptance of (versus your judgment of) where others are in their development is what grows your own power…and expands your compassion.
It keeps you out of self-righteousness and feeling “better than” (which is ego’s use of power).
If you’re ready to take your personal power to the next level, I have one-on-one sessions and packages available to mentor you in developing, deepening and refining your capacity to embody this next level version of yourself!
Email me at shannacovey@gmail.com to inquire further.
To increasing and holding personal power in the most conscious ways available!
Always Shine Brightly,
Shanna
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