To Saying Yes To Your Yes Moments!

June 25, 2024

Manifestation

A couple months ago my sister-in-law met a friend of a friend who, as she learned about him and his interests, thought I might be interested in meeting.

One of the things she said we have in common is being comfortably single so it wasn’t necessarily about connecting in “that” way, though the additional shared interests made it a “hmmm, that’s interesting”.

At the time, we left it at me being open to showing up at a social situation where he might be present and seeing what naturally unfolds. 

Fast forward about a month and a half and my sister-in-law invited me to a birthday party where he might be present.

Was this going to be a Yes moment or a No to avoid the discomfort that immediately arose in me?

I told her I’d think about it, where I spent the next week thinking I was going to say No (to feel safe).

I easily convinced myself it was very odd to show up at someone’s birthday party (by myself) who I’d only met once. (My sister-in-law would be there, but we live 50 miles from each other so driving myself was a more direct route). 

I told myself I could just wait for the next opportunity when it was a public setting like at a bar or a restaurant or something my sister-in-law was hosting. Not a private party where I’m a seemingly random person showing up.

And, of course, the awkward thoughts around meeting this person arose, making that No sound even more enticing.

A few days before the party I told my sister-in-law I preferred to wait until it was different social set up to meet him, explaining how it felt awkward. She understood. 

However, I did ask her more details about me being invited. She said when the hostess invited her she said to invite anyone else. Emily replied “like my sister-in-law?”…”Yes, of course!”, she replied.

Hmmm, that felt a little better…safer…less awkward.

Then, I asked if anyone else knew why she’d thought to invite me. She said she hadn’t said anything to anyone. 

Hmmm, that felt a whole lot better…safer…less awkward.

I still didn’t give her a Yes, but I continued to think about it…

Now it was really up to me to control any awkwardness I felt around meeting someone under these circumstances (I guess this was always the case, lol).

I did this by reminding myself I’m okay regardless of what happens… 

I might like him and he might not like me. I can handle that. I’ve got me.

He might like me and I might not like him, which creates a potentially uncomfortable conversation. I can handle that conversation. 

We both might like each other. Whoa, wouldn’t that be something? 

The awkwardness subsided in reminding myself I could handle whatever occurred.

I also decided not to make going to the party about meeting him (it wasn’t even guaranteed that he’d are there)…

In general, I’d been wanting to either create or say Yes to more opportunities regarding being out and doing things socially.

This fit that bill!

I also remembered talking to a friend, a few weeks prior, about how a new chapter in her life began after losing her husband. In referring to the new chapter, she said “It had been one of her Yes moments.” 

Then, the day before the party, I open up an Instagram story where someone shared a screenshot of Shonda Rhimes book, The Year of Yes. 

Can this idea of saying yes to new things be any more clear?

I finally say my Yes, lol. 

But with the intention of simply signaling to the Universe I’m open to new things. I wanted to re-leave any pressure around the Yes needing to be about the initial reason Emily invited me to the party.

When I arrived, Emily led me through the gathering introducing me to everyone and if she didn’t know them, she introduced both of us (she’s good like that).

I met the hostess, her parents, her aunts, her husband (the guest of honor!), other couple’s Emily knew from their hybrid homeschool program, friends of the guest of honor…and everyone was so nice and engaging! I felt right at home.

She was so good at doing the intros that I didn’t realize I met the person she intended for me to meet until much later, lol.

We did chat in a group for awhile towards the end of the party. 

The conversation flowed easily between all of us, but, in the end, it felt more like a fun conversation you have with new people you meet who become acquaintances. 

I didn’t feel a zing and I don’t believe I registered in his awareness that way either. (Thankfully, he had no idea I was even there to see if we registered in each other’s awareness, lol).

I still believe it was a worthwhile Yes Moment because I had a great time meeting and chatting with so many people! 

And who knows what signaling that Yes to the Universe will lead to next!

My you recognize your own Yes Moments.

May you have the willingness to say Yes when they present themselves.

May you quell any awkwardness by trusting in yourself to be okay no matter what occurs. 

To new adventures made possible from showing up for your Yes Moments!

Always Shine Brightly,

Shanna