Boundaries
Feeling safe is one of the most important things to understand how to know and create for yourself.
The safer you feel, the more freely you can express.
The more unsafe you feel, the more contracted you are in your expression.
At first, feeling safe is moving away from what makes you feel unsafe. (Setting boundaries to create a space of healing).
As you come more and more into your personal power, there will be less you’ll have to protect yourself from. (Your more aligned vibration with the healed version of yourself will naturally set boundaries).
But, until this point comes, it’s best to support yourself in feeling safe by protecting yourself from what takes you out.
This will likely require intentionally setting and using boundaries to protect yourself from the unconscious dynamics occurring in your experience that are creating a sense of feeling unsafe.
These dynamics aren’t serving you and, instead, are pointing to something in you that desires to be healed.
You need to create a boundary so this healing can take place.
Once the healing has begun, your vibrational alignment will rise in accordance with your healing.
This natural increase in vibrational alignment with a more healed version of yourself will prevent the old dysfunctional dynamics from coming into your experience, because you’re no longer aligned with experiencing them (unless there’s a higher purposes that can be served through you engaging with a dynamic of this nature…more on this in a bit).
If it’s a relationship that creates a sense of not feeling safe, consider removing yourself from it. (This is creating a boundary).
If it’s a certain group of people or type of situation that creates a sense of not feeling safe, consider no longer engaging in these groups and situations. (This is creating a boundary).
Once you create an environment that feels good to you, you can begin looking at and reflecting on the deeper drivers that are creating a sense of feeling unsafe in these relationships and situations.
This is where the inner healing begins.
Without space from the things triggering your sense of feeling unsafe, you have little to no wherewithal to begin the healing process because much of your energy is focused on navigating the relationships and situations in ways that prioritize your safety (in an imbalanced way).
Once there’s a release around your energy being tied up in this way, your energy can be directed into inner reflection and healing.
Through this journey of inner transformation you’ll emerge stronger in your sense of Self.
You’ll know the essence of your nature which is something that CAN’T be diminished by external factors.
You’ll feel stronger, more centered, resilient, courageous…bound in an inner knowing that can’t be unbound by the things that once affected you.
You’ll operate from a higher vibrational state that naturally sets boundaries and/or knows how to address and alchemize whatever attempts to penetrate one of your boundaries.
The situations that make there way in won’t overpower you. Instead, you’ll be able to use them for immediate learning and strengthen your vibrational state that much more.
Part of this will involve an increased capacity to see what the other person (or group) is doing without being taken out by what they’re doing. Their attempt to manipulate, dominate or control you in some manner won’t gain traction in the way it once did.
You’ll have a more impersonal relationship with the dynamic being presented, which also keeps you from becoming entangled in it.
(There might be a stage where you’re acting from a deeply self-protective and emotionally charged state, but as more healing and transcendence occurs the dynamic will become less personal).
As your “seeing” increases, you’ll naturally observe these imbalanced dynamics with greater understanding and equanimity (neutrality). (You begin to more and more relate to unconsciousness impersonally, instead of personally).
You won’t have as much of an emotional charge towards these dynamics, and will, instead, see the dynamic clearly and objectively. If it penetrates your field of energy and needs to be addressed, you’ll address it.
But more often than not, the dynamic will fully pass by you because you’re no longer a viable candidate to get “caught in it”.
This is how your vibrational state naturally moves on a trajectory that’s outside of these old dynamics.
If your involvement is needed as a function of providing wisdom (insight) to the other so they begin to see and heal the dynamic within in themself, you may feel moved to engage with it for that purpose. (This requires attunement to know if you’re being called to help or not, so be mindful of spinning your wheels in trying to help someone who is not calling for it).
In general, you’ll be interacting with dynamics of this nature less and less.
But it starts with knowing when to set boundaries for yourself and also committing to the inner healing you can do from within the sense of safety you create with the boundaries.
If you desire help understanding where, when and how to create boundaries and/or how to proceed with the healing process once you’ve created a safe environment, I offer one-on-one coaching to support you with this. Contact me for more information via the “contact form”.
Always Shine Brightly,
Shanna
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