Make Space for Change

Making space for change allows something new to flourish in its’ place…a new lesson; a new opportunity; a new relationship…a new depth of consciousness.

Regardless of the benefits that change offers, our “go to” place still tends to be a position of locking horns with frustration through intense resistance to “what is”. That’s because we (as our ego) confuse the fluidity that change offers as form of peace with ego’s inclination to “buy peace” through frustration.

This is both what keeps peace at bay and conflict in motion. Fortunately, we can use the same tools that keep this pattern in place (e.g., frustration, resistance, clinging and attachment) to help break the pattern.

When you feel the onset of frustration, train yourself to begin making space for change…

This could be a change in what you’re mentally attached to thinking about someone, something or a particular situation…mental patterns that, if left to run rampant, have the potential to leave you filled with bitter resentment for why someone, something or a particular situation is the way it is.

Or it could be physically removing yourself from a particular relationship or situation…part of your mental acceptance may be to physically move on.

Frustration is also directly linked to clinging…

Right before we’re willing to let go, our clinging tends to intensify. We try to force the relationship to work, or if we’re in the middle of a breakup or divorce, we resist accepting either the dissolution of the relationship or its’ cause. In either case we’re clinging to a person or a mental position about the person or situation.

If we’re frustrated with our job, we cling to our mental position that we hate our job.

If we’ve just lost our job, we resist accepting why it happened and/or that it happened.

This is the typical pattern for anything that we perceive as “going wrong” in our life. We cling to how we want things to be, instead of accepting them as they are. In that clinging, we close ourselves off to new possibilities…even the possibility of peacefully accepting things as they are without something physically changing.

For some (myself included) the mere thought of accepting something “as is” can spark a fear inside of us that blinds us to even considering other possibilities. This is the height of resistance and clinging. If you feel yourself here (as I have), pray for the courage to let go of this mental position.

Courage is exactly what’s needed because, in these instances of intense resistance, we’re going head-to-head with the strongest part of our particular ego. Intense resistance is directly linked to our ego’s deepest attachments.

When we’re in a state of resistance, we are unconsciously aligned with our ego. We (falsely) believe our sense of self and fulfillment lie in needing these particular things to be a certain way. In this state of consciousness, letting these things go feels painful, because we believe they are the only things that can give us peace. This is not true…it’s simply the ego’s belief that this is true.

So the challenge is to overcome this false pull…to completely transform this energy complex so that we come to know ourselves from a state of consciousness that doesn’t require these things to be in place to feel fulfilled or to know our deepest sense of self.

This is no easy task, but it’s absolutely necessary if we want to glimpse, touch, and, ultimately, anchor in our true nature…that which knows itself beyond any ego identification.

All of our frustrations and attachments stem from a desire to be fulfilled by these relationships and situations being a certain way. When we’re willing to recognize that they’re not the source of our fulfillment (or representative of our true “sense of self”), we can finally avail ourselves to that which is.

However, so long as we’re clinging to these outer desires, our conscious recognition of inner fulfillment (and our inner sense of self) will continue to escape our awareness.

Instead, we must begin chipping away at each of these false pulls towards fulfillment and knowing our inner sense of self. Through this process, we’re trying to overcome the entire complex of ego energy that believes fulfillment (and/or our sense of self) can be found through doing or having…instead of simply being.

A total commitment to this process will challenge every false pull. Your life will feel like it’s going in circles as you lean a ladder along the side of one building after another, climbing to the top only to recognize ego’s false pull (at least mine has). Don’t let this discourage you…it’s a part of the awakening process to challenge every false desire or pull of egos.

Anchoring in this space of “being” is the primary task at hand for the development of human conscious, both on a personal and collective level. This is the state at which the ego-mind has been completely undone, since that’s what blocks us from knowing this space.

Though anchoring in a space of “being” may sound passive, it’s actually the state at which the most effective action can arise. Without the impediment of the ego-mind, how could this not be the case?

The thinking and action that arises from this space is free from all conditioning and fear. It is based in the depths of the one’s spiritual heart with all goals and motivations aligned with love and right-action.

Good action (and moments of great action) can be taken from a level of consciousness below this space, but near perfect action arises from this space of “being”. Again, without the ego eclipsing your judgment, how could right-action and right-thinking not be available to you?

Because of this, there is no higher service you can do for yourself or the world at large than to commit to doing the necessary inner work to anchor in this space of being. It all begins by making space for it to be known.

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To making space for change,

Shanna

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