Last night when I was watching the finals of The Voice host, Carson Daly, asked one of the finalists, front-runner 16 year old Sawyer Fredericks, how he’s so strong at being in the moment on national TV? (He’s the most solid performer this season, where every live performance has landed him in the top 10 for iTunes downloads).

Sawyer’s response was incredible (spiritual beyond his years). He said, “I’m not really worried about going home because I know I will always enjoy music, whether I’m here or on the farm” (his family lives on a farm in upstate New York, where he’s homeschooled).

Let’s be real. Most of us would be nervous if we were in his position or a similar position where we “put ourselves out there”…the results would matter to us. And that’s just it…we get nervous because we want something in return, whereas Sawyer let that piece of the equation go.

We get nervous when we perceive something to be at stake, whether it’s our future or some aspect of our psychological self (i.e., the “psychological loss” we feel from failure).

Sawyer didn’t perceive anything to be …

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