We each have patterns in us we over identify with or lean on to feel safe.

Unfortunately, these patterns often stem from not inwardly feeling safe or whole so we’re unknowingly relying on compulsive, dysfunctional and distorted patterns to create a false sense of safety.

These patterns are always based in some form of fear that expresses through things like control…

If you can control your outer circumstances through dominating others or a situation, you believe it’ll keep you safe.

Or by making yourself small as to not be a problem for another…

If you can control yourself as the one variable to keep the peace in a situation by walking on eggshells or being the peacemaker or people pleaser, you’ll continue to feel safe by not creating confrontation, disapproval or rejection. 

These patterns show up in numerous ways, depending on our disposition, temperament and personality.

But they all point towards creating a sense of safety for ourself in our outer world when we’re not able to come from it directly.

This sense of safety is always based on a shaky foundation. We know this because safety is not felt when these patterns are …

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