This Is Embarrassingly Personal, But Sharing Is Teaching
The garden party I mentioned in a message earlier this year is happening this Saturday!
I’m so excited to bring it to life and can’t wait to share how it goes with you in next week’s message.
Something I’ve said for years (to myself and here) is “I’m here to spread the good, the holy and the beautiful”. I picked this line up from The Way of Mastery years ago and I really feel like the garden party is an extension of this intention.
The party is not only an extension of something that wants to flow from my heart, but it’s also filled with beauty in how I want to aesthetically present it. The little details are getting me so excited!
I also love this quote from Melanie Ann Layer: “Celebration is a party thrown in the name of gratitude.”
With tasting and partaking in fancy champagne being a central theme of the party, I thought this quote tied in perfectly to create an underlying intention for the party, as well!
To build on the frequency of gratitude as we near the party, I’m personally taking time this week …
KEEP READINGLetting Go of the Need To Be Liked
There’s a difference between wanting to be liked and needing to be liked.
You can want to be liked without altering who you are.
But when you need to be liked you’re at risk of altering who you are and how you behave in order to be liked.
When you want to be liked without altering who you are, you can let go of not being liked and continue as you are.
It’s so important to be aware of the difference.
I encourage you to observe yourself as you interact with others, whether it’s existing relationships or being around new people, in new situations and circumstances.
Do you feel yourself adjusting to meet the standards of another or are you comfortably holding yourself in who you know yourself to be, regardless of another’s reaction or opinion of you?
These can be micro movements in ourself or patterns that are unconsciously running us.
Become adept at uncovering the unconscious patterns and more vigilant at noticing the micro movements in yourself that subtly adjust to what will gain you the validation (applause, belonging, being thought of in a flattering way, someone not being mad or upset with you, etc.).
We have a strong need …
Are You Playing To Win or Not To Lose?
I was in a very activating 5 day masterclass hosted by Melanie Ann Layer last week where the entire class was framed around the following question:
“Am I playing to win or not to lose?”
And in deepening in this question, when it looks like you’re losing (movement towards your goals and desires does not appear to be unfolding in your direction)…
Are you still playing to win or are you safetying up, collapsing, taking yourself out of the game, etc.?
When it comes to backing the moves we make in life, faith is either there, in our belief in ourself and our belief in possibility, or it’s not and, instead, we’re unconsciously handing our power over to the results that immediately occur as evidence of what’s possible.
If we’re playing to win, the immediate results are not indicative of what is or isn’t possible; our energy is.
‘Playing to win” energy isn’t distracted by immediate results, because it’s oriented on winning, no matter the obstacles.
It’s already “claimed” it’s place in winning.
But so often, we unconsciously shrink in response to the immediate results (assuming they’re a bit lackluster in the beginning) …
Creating Agreements Based In Your Hear’s Guidance (not what you “should” do)
If you find it difficult saying No to requests (whether this happens across the board or only in certain situations with certain people)…
Or if you’re a recovering people pleaser who automatically says No from an aggressive, protective place, fearing you’ll fall back into people pleasing…I created The People Pleaser’s Guide To Reclaiming Your Personal Power to help you:
~ CONFIDENTLY, POWERFULLY and PEACEFULLY agree to what you desire to agree to and just as easily say No to the things you want to say No to (how freeing does this feel?!).
~ Create relationship dynamics where you feel like you have space to say No (ahhh, what relief!)
~ Say, what you need to say, when you need to say it…all without contracting!Can you imagine no longer seething over agreeing to things you don’t want to agree to because you feel the power to express how you truly feel about it?
No more shrinking from saying how you truly feel about the request.
No more feeling trapped in an obligation to say Yes.
No more feeling like No is never truly an option.
No more fearing someone being mad at you or disappointed in you.
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