Comparison & It’s Downfall To Our Wellbeing!
Reminder: Comparison is the thief of joy.
We’ve all heard this but I feel like it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison without even realizing it.
Ego is set up to unconsciously look for what it doesn’t have and, then, complain about it and feel bad for itself for not having it.
It’s set up to think “all would be well if I had x, y and z”.
Then, it sees someone who has those things and it gets jealous.
Or it sets itself on a course to get z, y and z with the full expectation that it will finally feel satisfied once that occurs. All while missing the good that’s currently occurring in your life.
Ego compares itself based on what it has or doesn’t have, how far it’s come or hasn’t come, what it’s accomplished or hasn’t accomplished…
It compares itself based on where it lines up in the hierarchy of whatever it values (what it’s chasing, accumulating, creating, striving for, etc.).
This happens across all activities including a desire to spiritually awaken.
In this case, ego compares itself to someone who’s further down the path of awakening (feeling inferior to …
KEEP READINGSetting Boundaries From Peace & Power (vs ego)
Setting a boundary from your ego is not the same as doing so from a place of peace and power.
It’s an emotional reaction against the other person…a way to assert ego’s power as opposed to coming from your innate power of knowing your wholeness, worth, value, etc.
It often lacks compassion or respect for the other. And can be a justification for being b*itchy or a jerk.
It’s often a protection mechanism to ensure you’re not taken advantage of by showing who’s boss.
It comes from control, force and dominance, instead of true power.
In boundary setting education there’s something taught about not being responsible for the other person’s reaction to your boundary.
This is true WHEN you come from peace and power as opposed to an emotional reaction against the other person.
There’s a responsibility on your part to come from peace and power (a non-emotionally charged state) before you can release how the boundary lands with the other person (the other person’s reaction to the boundary).
When you come from your ego, you’re responsible for the negative residue you leave with another (when you’re on a path of emotional and spiritual maturity).
Boundary …
Purifying Acts of Kindness & Service
Can you do something without attaching to the fruits of your labor?It’s not always easy, but it is required as you move down a path of awakening.
Purification is the name of the game the deeper you go into a spiritual awakening.
You’re purifying all motives (any micro movement that occurs in you) from wanting something out of whatever you’re doing.
The part of you that wants something out of what you’re engaged in is ego.
It wants to sustain itself through attachment to feedback, results, being thought of positively, etc.
And this can get really nuanced when you’re acting from kindness, under the guise of wanting to help another.
It can be a major blindspot when you believe in a story about doing it for the other person, but get frustrated when your help or kindness isn’t received as intended.
Your frustration feels justified because you’re doing this for them.
Add in a dose of fear regarding them continuing on the path they’re on, whether it’s a health journey, general life journey, emotional journey, spiritual journey, financial journey or any kind of journey, without applying your help or receiving your kindness and your frustration …
I Hosted A Garden Party!
This past Saturday I hosted a Garden Party featuring friends, flowers, fancy champagne and all things dainty!
The initial idea was built on wanting to intentionally share some fancy champagne I’d received as a Christmas gift in 2022 with my close group of girlfriends.
I had this idea for over a year before stumbling across the infamous cat picture that inspired a more formalized vision back in January. 
As the planning unfolded, I began to incorporate a theme of gratitude into the party after being inspired by the following quote from Melanie Ann Layer:
“Celebration is a party thrown in the name of gratitude”.
Everything unfolded better than I could have anticipated, which, we know from last week’s message, required some internal processing on my part after I wondered if my friends were on board with my “party homework” for showing up with the intention to share something they were each grateful for …
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