Be The Rare One
Most people want change.But they don’t want to put the work in.
Be the rare one. The one who starts and follows through…And reaps the benefits.
Back in 2011, when I first read and studied A Course in Miracles, I dedicated 2 hours a day, 5 days per week to reading it, until I finished it over two months later. (And then I started it again).
I was self-led. I didn’t wait to join a study group and go at their pace. I just did it on my own. I started and I stuck to it, not knowing where it was leading.And it changed my life.
There’s “before” reading it and “after”. I plan to live in the chapter of “after” for the rest of my life. That’s how powerful this choice and commitment was for me.
This isn’t about reading A Course in Miracles.
That was just “my thing” to commit to. It’s about committing to “your thing” that’s going to create change for YOU.
It’s about being dedicated to change and transformation in the ways that are meaningful to you, so your life feels better.But if you’re interested in understanding my personal transformation (how I live in the chapter …
KEEP READINGDrop The Guilt & Manipulation
So often we get buried in conflict and frustration because we have all these expectations for how and what others should or shouldn’t be/do and we get upset when these expectations aren’t met.
Then we get frustrated when we feel that same sense of obligation thrown our way.
We try to bind others to our own expectations, but resent when we feel bound by other’s expectations of us!
Then, we bury ourselves in guilt, frustration, anger, resentment and bitterness around unmet expectations we have of others and feeling a sense of obligation from other’s expectations of us.
The best way to free ourselves from these constraints is to give each other the space to say No.
How refreshing to release ourselves to choose, without feeling a sense of guilt, obligation or expectation, the thing that most aligns with our own desire…
…and to trust others to make decisions that align with what they truly desire to do (or not do).
To not take these decisions personally, but simply to see them as an alignment based on our respective inner desire.
We’ve got to stop guilting and manipulating each other.
And we’ve got to stop taking …
When You Feel Squeezed, What Comes Out?
Reclaiming personal power is about understanding all the ways we self-sabotage our belief in ourselves (our worthiness, faith, enoughness, confidence, capability and value).
It’s about having a base level understanding of how to come back to center (or hold our center) when things attempt to take us out.
If we don’t understand how to do this, things get the best of us.
When we feel “squeezed”, we become reactive…things set us off and we attack, blame, resist, fight against and hold grievances.
We feel irritable and we react from that irritability by being moody and aggressive (or passive aggressive) towards loved ones, team members, strangers, etc.
We self-indulge in pity parties or numb through binging Netflix, eating junk food, having a drink, etc.
We regret saying what we said (or how we said it).
We get down on ourselves, which further indulges our downward spiral.
We live with a background of simmering frustration and self-judgment.
All because we don’t know or see another way!
But there is another way…
It won’t immediately release you from being triggered or trigger-able.
But it will help you understand why you’re triggered.
It will …
Know Your North Star
When you know what you value and desire to calibrate towards in life, you have a north star guiding and directing you no matter what appears or occurs in your path.
You’re anchored in purpose and direction, no matter what life meets you with.
What you value (and desire to calibrate towards) becomes your driving force in responding to life.
It informs your decisions, your role in relationships, how you handle and navigate life’s situations and circumstances, as well as what you desire to attract and consciously co-create in your life.
It gives you a framework from which to process the things that occur in your life and a blueprint for how you desire to “be” and express in life.
To do this, you have to DECIDE what it is in life you desire to calibrate towards.
By knowing what matters to YOU.
And then build your life around these things and through the expression of these values.
Calibrating to LOVE and the general fruits of the spirit matters to me.
For me, LOVE isn’t a fluffy, “oh, isn’t that so sweet” thing.
It’s the work of clearing EVERYTHING that …
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